Delegating when you want to do it yourself
For me, it’s hard to delegate because you have to release control.
When I’m faced with a large project, I don’t naturally think, “How can others help me complete this?” I attempt to do it myself, completing it exactly how I believe it should be completed and, therefore, having total control of the outcome.
When I was engaged to my wife, for example, I was faced with my daunting half of the wedding planning. My initial response was, “How am I going to do all of this?”
I had forgotten about my eight groomsmen.
Just the other week, I was overloaded with work and had to try and offload a project to my wife. Initially, I was hesitant—after all, I was the one who knew how to do my job best, right? But it was either teach her how, or be miserably overworked. I chose the first. And guess what—she turned out to be way better at it than me! Even with no experience in the task, she achieved what I had always aimed to do (but never did). I was shocked and humbled.
In the passing off of what you know, there has to be a belief that the other really can do what you’re teaching them. We shouldn’t aim to accomplish everything ourselves, but rather seek to have others excel beyond what we could ever achieve on our own.
To delegate is to love your neighbor as yourself. Through delegation, you’re saying, “I trust you as much as I trust myself.” And that’s exactly why it’s so hard to love someone in this way—because we love control more than we love releasing it.
Three things. Delegate because you were made for dependence, not independence. Delegate because you trust that others are extraordinary, capable and unique. Delegate because you trust that equipping others is far better than burning out.
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